Blogging about cancer is a tricky thing. Do you post personal stuff? Medical stuff? Research news? I wasn’t comfortable posting my cancer “road trip” on Facebook but I did send monthly updates to a small community of friends and family. Now that I look back it was basically a blog—unedited, unscripted, and as raw as I was feeling. I think it helped people know exactly what was going on in my head, since it’s usually much different than what people think you’re feeling. What I loved reading when I was sick was anything that made me say, “Yes, yes.” That was comforting.

I’ve decided to post a few of my “R-rated” (as in, raw-rated) updates so that any patients, survivors, spouses, family members, friends, cousins of survivors--anyone in the circle--might for a minute be struck by a paragraph and say, “Me, too.”

I’m calling them Stage IV Stories; they won’t be in This is Cancer. (To put them in context, I was diagnosed in late autumn 2012.)

I also started blogging about big (and small) moments that I thought were universal and might be helpful if you’re deep in: deep in treatment, deep in survivorship, deep in as a caregiver. I try to blog twice a month (unless something really amazing happens, and I’ll write sooner, or I can’t find a babysitter and will post less often).

“Now I’ll Tell You a Secret Thing”

November 22, 2019

At 7a.m. on November 23, 2012, my life stopped. I was 37. My life had changed before this in big and small ways; mostly good, some spectacular (having two healthy kids). But hearing the words—sorry to do this over the phone; you have advanced inflammatory breast...

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The Plum Trees (Yet Another Lesson in Letting Go)

September 6, 2019

Let me start by saying that I love trees. There is nothing that would make me cut down a tree. However. We had three plum trees along our side fence. About ten feet high, they were planted by the......Read More

Life Lesson on Aisle 5

March 27, 2019

Have you ever spent $30 on greeting cards? Last week I was in my local Safeway, picking up the three things my son will eat. I was distracted, I was wandering. It had been a rough month; actually, a......Read More

New Year, New Updates

February 28, 2019

As the new year unfolds I wanted to post the highlights from 2018 and what’s happening in 2019. And in the spirit of Marie Kondo-ing, it is all in one tidy post. Last year was full of: everything. I......Read More

Lyft and American Cancer Society Giving Free Rides to Cancer Patients

September 12, 2018

Lyft is offering free rides to cancer patients in major U.S. cities as part of their ongoing relationship with the American Cancer Society (ACS). Read all the details here.  ...Read More

Upside Down & Inside Out

May 11, 2017

Spring arrived this year in fits and starts. Just when I’m ready to slap on the sunscreen and put away my winter sweaters, the rain comes back. This uncertainty, this instability, has been getting to me. And last week......Read More

New Beginnings

January 20, 2017

As I watched the inauguration this morning I found myself looking back, to where I was four years ago. And I realized that on this day in 2013 I was about to start another round of chemo when I......Read More

G is for Gratitude

September 16, 2016

Fall is in the air, and as much as I love the changing seasons it is still not easy to head into autumn and come up on the anniversary of my diagnosis. I “stay positive” about 90 percent of......Read More